At 42 Degrees

At 42 Degrees

Friday, November 6, 2015

Making Sense Out of Chaos

When life doesn't make sense, what do you do?

A. Have a pity party?
B. Complain?
C. Flip every situation to your own advantage?



Meet Isaac: Master Extraordinaire of Making Sense Out of Chaos, as our little guy can flip any situation into a party!


Lately we've been learning a lot about Isaac's fondness for controlling the narrative, it's a place of safety for him when life is not making sense. If he's in control, he knows what's going to happen, and confusion is kept to a minimum, so more fun can be had by all, and trust me, Isaac wants to include everyone in the fun!

This information is very valuable to us as parents, because, hello, our five year old can't narrate every situation,...wonk, wonk, wonk,...sorry I.I., but that's jest reality, you gotta learn to give-and-take to navigate through society, and it all hinges on: communication. 

The burden is upon us, to communicate as clearly and concisely as possible, especially when new concepts or new situations are being introduced. 

Boundaries have to be established, explained, maintained and guarded, because issues for a child on the spectrum are not cut and dry,...especially when difficult stuff like counting to 100 by 10's is sooooo easy for Isaac to pick up on, but easy stuff like listening to a story or participating in a group activity is sooooo difficult,...and again,...it's communication: 

Verbal and visual cues help the most, also remembering some of this stuff is developmental, and I.I. is a BIG, little guy, which can lead to expectations above and beyond what he is presently capable. 


But, then Isaac is always surprising us,...just this past week,...Isaac noticed a rubber band in a parking lot, he picked it up and said, "Look what I found!" - while Mama nearly keeled over in SHOCK, to hear such a definitive statement from our little guy, and to us - that just proves - IT'S ALL IN THERE: words, sentences, observations, jokes, sentiments - everything our son would and could say  - if only the motor processing would cooperate on a consistent basis. 

Perhaps a desire to communicate has something to do with Isaac's fascination with the alphabet, and now words, as he is loving to learn how to spell, simple and unsimple words, as Isaac ran into the kitchen, and signed and said, "Cat, C-A-T" - and of course, per his instructions, I have to repeat the lesson, "Cat, C-A-T" -- he runs back into the living room, while I wait expectantly and it is only a few minutes later, he runs aback into the kitchen, "Hat, H-A-T" - and Mama spells too, as we go through, Mat, and Cow, and then Isaac runs back into the kitchen, "Elephant, E-L-E-P-H _" he looks at me, like "...help?" and I offer, "A-N" - and Isaac finishes strong, "T, Elephant!"

Hard stuff, easy, Easy stuff is hard, and the stuff that totally doesn't make sense,...Isaac takes control, and let's us know - what he does understand as he narrates the events to take place, ".... this, and this, and this, like that." - it's actually a powerful communication tool for us to use to help our little guy, or in other words it's taking a note out of his own notebook and flipping a disadvantage into an advantage




It's taking us a while to learn how to make sense out of the chaos, but we're learning from the best!

Until I post again,...may God bless and keep you!




1 comment:

  1. He sounds like he's very clever! And he has beautiful eyes!

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