Let's be perfectly clear: Holidays are tough,...especially those first years when nothing seem to register with significance. Or in other words,...our little guy was totally completely unimpressed with the Holiday Season.
Hello,...when a child could CARE LESS about opening presents,...or even not show interest in the new SUPER COOL toy,...yeah,...that's tough.
Let's not even talk about making cookies and cocoa,...stuffing stockings,...or munching candy canes. Isaac's attitude was totally like, "I have no idea what you're doing,...but whatever,...if that makes YOU happy go ahead,...but me,...I've got other STUFF to do."
Yeah,...those holiday memories can be tough,...but fast forward with LOTS of therapy and maturation!
Now Isaac's totally getting into the Holidays...in his own way, of course,...but it's a far cry from where we started five years ago.
Snowball fight, anyone?
"Ho, ho, ho," Isaac loves him some Santa time,...or rather how many times can anyone watch Rudolph the Red Nose Reindeer, or Santa's Coming to Town????
Finding your way through Christmas traditions with Autism can be tricky,....but one of the FIRST things we've learned is to LET GO of preconceived notions of what the Holidays should be.
Isaac has his own way of navigating through the Holidays,...and while it may not be traditional, or typical, it's always joyful,...and it's NEVER dull.
Yet,...is a beautiful word.
So many years ago,...our little guy was not able to celebrate,...yet.
Yet,...has arrived for dancing with friends to holiday tunes!
We've learned to take the Holidays one step at at time,...and enjoy those steps.
It's all very much like trying to get a Santa pix of our little guy.
Hundreds of pictures,
LOTS of patience,
Even yet,...getting our little guy to eat his veggies.
With sensory issues galore,...how is it accomplished?
LOTS of patience,
and more steps,
food on plate,
plate on table,
Isaac near plate,
move to food on Isaac's plate,
Isaac tolerates strange food on plate,
Isaac touches veggies,
Isaac tastes veggies,
and now Isaac eats veggies,
not with enthusiasm,
but that's a 'yet' we're working on.
It's not typical,
but nothing about our little guy is.
But NOTHING is stopping him!
How is it going?
Our little guy is learning the game,
but the communication challenges are WOW,...a real challenge,
Sign language is really helping,
and the referees are all buttercups,
but then aren't most 'toughies'?
Or rather they are very compassionate individuals who are helping to make the wonder of sports doable for our little guy.
Thanks you, men in black and white striped shirts!
Of course, basketball is really just an excuse to get pancakes after the game.
More progress here,
that's STICKY syrup
our little guy is consuming.
How about getting to go to a holiday movie,
and NOT have to sit on the front row???
Isaac LOVED "THE STAR" movie,
and so did we,
as we want our little guy to understand the 'true' meaning of Christmas!
I.I. totally understands about gift giving, but not in a typical way.
Having to check out of school to go to speech therapy,...our little guy missed out on some gift opening in his class. He was given the gift to open at home,...but that didn't happen. A typical child would have ripped into that package, but I.I. carried it very carefully home,...and then he lovingly placed it under the Christmas tree - so happy, so proud.
"That's from my friend Sydney," said Isaac, and he made a point of showing everyone his 'present' from his friend Sydney in its place of honor under the tree.
Oh yeah,...seven years old,...and our little guy already knows what makes presents so precious are not the contents,...but the people.
More preconceived notions knocked aside,...there is a lot to learn from a 'non-typical' Holiday Season.
Another 'yet' conquered this season,...as our little guy (for the first time) is happily anxious for Christmas Day to arrive,...and thus we've have it visually mapped out on our weekly calendar.
Christmas baking is about the bonding,...not the cookies.
Who said you HAD to have Christmas cookies?
Christmas Rice Krispie treats,
AND nearly no mess way,
to bond with Holiday goodies.
Patience,...is definitely needed to comprehend Autism in the light of the Holiday Season.
Give it time.
Change the traditions,
or make new traditions.
Just because something is not 'traditional' or 'typical' doesn't mean its not worthy to celebrate.
Nearly all of our past traditions are dust,
but we still have those memories,
and they were fine for that time and place,
but now we're in a new time and a new place with our little guy,
and he never seems to tire of delighting us.
Oh yeah,...just when you think we're stuck in a static situation,
nothing is going to change,
he pulls a fast one on us.
How about decorating a Christmas tree?
Okay,...not exactly solo,...but everyone else had to work,
and under our little guy's direction,...I put the Christmas tree together,
Isaac decorated it.
Yep,...every bit,...except the angel,...he instructed me to do that,
but the rest,...is all his own handiwork.
Yeah,...I was sniffling and wiping tears when he wasn't looking.
Five years ago,...I'd had thought THIS miracle would NEVER take place.
Which leads to the most important thing we've learned in the past five years.
Break-throughs are just around the corner.
And yeah,...your Holidays may NEVER looks traditional.
But what's wrong with that?
In many ways there is NOTHING traditional about the Christmas story.
2017 years ago,...
a virgin gave birth to the KING of KINGS in a stable.
From our family to yours.
Until we post again,...may God bless and keep you!